Intentionally Be Discipled (A)
I fear that an extremely small number of Jesus followers intentionally make any effort in this all-important area. I came across something that I think may help.
Yesterday I read an article that was intended for writers. However, what the author said applies DIRECTLY to discipleship. Jeff Goins wrote about the correct way to go about finding a mentor.
He believes that many people go about it the wrong way. He said:
“I see a lot of young people approaching mentoring the wrong way. They ask a leader they admire to mentor them, forcing the person into an awkward position in which she feels bad for saying ‘no’ or obligated to say ‘yes.’
But this is not how mentoring works.
I have a passion to see that change. There is a lot of misunderstanding about how mentoring works, including how to begin a relationship with a mentor. Here are some of them:
- Mentoring is about me.
- I need to wait for a mentor to find me.
- Being mentored is more passive than active.
- I need to ask someone to mentor me up-front.
Face it: Everything you know about mentoring may be wrong.”
This applies directly to Christians because I think when it comes to growing as a disciple of Jesus (which all are called to do!), we take the same approach. We think it is all about us, we think we need to wait to be found, we assume growth as a Christian is more passive than active, and/or we need to just randomly pick someone to disciple us.
Goins helps correct the misconception by offering 10 steps to finding a mentor. I think a Christian could apply these same steps in the context of finding someone to help you grow as a disciple of Jesus.
1. Find someone you want to be like
2. Study the person
3. Make the “ask”
4. Evaluate the fruit
5. Follow up after the meeting
6. Let the relationship evolve organically
7. Don’t check out when you feel challenged
8. Press into relationship
9. Ask your mentor for feedback
10. Commit to the process
Go here to read the entire article and check out his comments under each step.
Are you being discipled or discipling someone? How did you go about starting it?